Mention hypnosis to many people and they may think of Derren Brown (or, further back, Paul McKenna). There’s a real fear that a hypnotist can and will get you to do things you wouldn’t ordinarily do.
Since it works on the ‘power of suggestion’, people worry about what those suggestions may be.
Those fears are also unfounded. Hypnosis is what happens when you’re guided into a state of trance. We even do this to ourselves when we ‘zone out’ on the bus or get wrapped up in a book. You’re not unconscious, and you still have control over your body.
The difference between everyday trance and hypnosis is that you use hypnosis to do something. That could be curbing cravings, healing physical pain, or boosting confidence. In the case of this post, that’s achieving emotional healing around relationship issues.
So how does hypnosis work for healing in these cases? Let’s find out!
The Power of the Unconscious Mind
After a relationship ends, or you’ve been struggling with dating for a while, you’ll naturally feel a lot of things. Emotions are indicators of things you need to check.
Trouble is, we can also get wrapped up in our thoughts. These can provoke a series of negative emotions, which continues the cycle of negative thoughts.
People get so wrapped up in their thoughts they forget to wonder where the thoughts come from. Hint – it’s the unconscious mind. The unconscious is incredibly powerful, and you need to know what it does before you can understand why hypnosis works the way that it does.
Think about all the things you do during the day. You brush your teeth, you eat and drink, and you do your job or enjoy your hobbies.
Here’s the big question though.
How often do you pay attention to what you’re physically doing during each of these actions? Think about all of the fine motor skills involved in having a drink. Your muscles, nerves, tendons, and everything else all have to work together. You couldn’t hope to calculate all of this consciously so your body runs on autopilot.
That’s because your body has learned each of the micro-movements it needs to perform and strung them together. That ‘string’ becomes a miniature computer program.
Whenever you need to perform that action? The unconscious kicks in and runs the program. i.e. you perform the action.
It’s actually a sophisticated system that for the most part works very well. Imagine being left to consciously do all of this of your own accord.
I’m sure we all know people who would forget to breathe if their lungs didn’t have it covered.
That Power Comes With a Problem
The unconscious mind is always aware of everything all the time. I do mean literally everything. Right now, it’s aware of the sensations in your left big toe, noises in the far distance, and even how your clothes feel against your shoulder blades.
That information is constantly in your mind, but it only becomes useful when you pay conscious attention to it.
Look at it like this. Do you know what is within reach to your left?
I bet you had to look, didn’t you? Your unconscious mind was completely aware. Yet your conscious mind had to physically look so it could filter the information. It does this to find the answer. Much like a torch turning on in an unlit room to find something.
That isn’t a problem. As I said above, that’s how you get through the day without driving yourself mad thinking about brushing your teeth.
The problem occurs because of everything else that’s going on in your unconscious. All of the stimuli from the external world goes in there. That includes sensory input but also emotional issues, conversations, and so on. As we’re not consciously aware of it, we’re not always sure what’s going on in there.
This makes healing more challenging and this is where hypnosis comes in.
How does this relate to hypnosis?
Much of the healing process happens consciously. This lets people think about their issues, explain them, and come to terms with them.
Trouble is, as you’ve probably guessed, the ‘problems’ actually reside in the unconscious.
While the conscious mind lets you articulate the issue, the solutions can be found within the unconscious mind. Neural priming exercises like hypnosis and neuro-linguistic programming (NLP) let you speak to the most powerful part of the mind.
Let me give you an example, in the form of a fictional young woman named Sandra. She isn’t over her ex, and no amount of ‘giving it time’ or talking it over is helping.
Now Sandra isn’t consciously making a decision to beat herself up over it. The painful thoughts and feelings come back from the unconscious. Then the conscious mind has to deal with them.
Sure, she can try a cognitive-based therapy, or talking to friends. In both cases, she’s only working on the conscious level. She’s learning to ‘cope’ with the problem until something happens in her life that fixes the problem or makes it obsolete.
But who wants to just cope when they could be thriving?
Let’s go back to the idea of the mind as an operating system. The hypnotherapist can help Sandra run a file search of her unconscious. This helps her dig out the thoughts, emotions, and memories she’s buried related to her problem.
She can discard the old conclusions she’d drawn about these things and make new ones. Using hypnosis, she’s going into the place where the problem is and resolves it there. This means it won’t keep running in the background or bubble up into her conscious to become an issue again.
That’s why hypnosis gets faster, more lasting results than more traditional talking therapies.
That’s Why Hypnosis Works So Well
We use hypnosis as part of our Love With Intelligence program to accelerate the healing process. Most personal development courses will provide training videos and workbooks, but these only tackle the issue in your conscious mind.
Adding hypnosis lets you address the root of the issue in your unconscious mind. This approach lets you deepen and extend both your learning and healing throughout the program.
It’s the best way to get healing fast that actually lasts.
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